About Green Tea & Chickpeas
For years I tried to be super mom. I did all the things I believed my kids needed or wanted. I place all my focus on them. Basically everything I did, thought, or worked on for was for them.
I let everything else slip away.
My kids became who I was, my whole identity. I was their mom.
Fast forward a fifteen years, to find that I am married to a stranger with whom I share no interests, have kids who take me for granted and don't respect me, and have no idea who I am anymore or what I want out of life.
Worst of all, I was always just one moment away from irritation or anger. I was unhappy and hopelessly lonely.
I couldn't understand why this was my life.
I did everything for them! I gave everything I had and more to my family. I compromised my happiness and my sanity so I could be the best mom for them.
But you know what?
Turns out I compromised too much.
I compromised myself.
I didn't set clear boundaries. I didn't set clear expectations. Instead, I let my kids run the show and I just ran around doing whatever I thought they needed me to do. Never stopping for a minute to think that there was a better way to do this.
I let being a mom deplete all my energy without ever taking a minute to restore it.
I allowed myself to become resentful and bitter. This was not the mom I set out to be. I wanted to be everything for my kids, but I compromised too much of myself in the process.
Hind sight is 20/20.
While we can never go back, we can't change the past, we can learn from it. We can take that knowledge and use it to improve our future.
I don't want you to make the same mistakes I did. I want to help you be the mom I was trying to be without the compromising.
"My mission is to encourage women just like you to identify their elemental struggles and uncover ways to conquer them through self development and personal cultivation."
I firmly believe there are four distinctive struggles that moms face.
I call them monsters.
Overcoming the Monster is the basis for my whole purpose. It's that monster within yourself.
I believe she has many forms.
- Hollow Monster who make you feel empty and depleted.
- Invisible Monster who leaves you wondering who you are and how you lost yourself.
- Stress Monster who makes you believe you must to all the things because that's what's expected of you.
- Doubtful Monster who makes you doubt yourself and causes you to feel like you're being judged, when in fact you are judging yourself.
My goal is to help you and other moms realize their personal monster or struggle then guide you through the process of defeating it. You can't change what you can't identify, after all.
Once the struggle has a name, we can work together through proven systems designed to help conquer the struggle and keep it away for good.
Hello, I'm Cheryl
Wellness Coach. Personal Cultivation Specialist. Monster Tamer.
• Awesome planner, not so awesome at sticking to a plan
• Lover of stickers(might even be obsessed)
• Tea is my drink of choice, especially matcha, yum!
• My motto: Strive to learn something new everyday
Self Development Systems
Boundaries without Guilt
Boundaries are one of the single most important steps you can take towards finding happiness. They allow you to cultivate healthy relationships and live without resentment, while also giving you the power to make your needs a priority. Then ensuring you actually take the time to restore your "cup" so you can be the person you want to be.
Let me help you find ways to automate parts of your routine and learn to set boundaries so you have more time for yourself so you can feel energized and ready to be who they need you to be.
Stress is no joke. Living in a constant state of stress can be detrimental to your physical and mental health. I get it. You want to do all the things for the people you love, me too. But at some point, you need to give up some control, and accept the fact that most of those things aren't necessary(in fact, they may not even be appreciated or wanted). Learn to work smarter not harder.
Let me help you to quiet your mind by practicing ways to live in the present and clear your head so you can focus and be productive instead of completely overwhelmed.
Believe me I understand what it's like to always be second guessing your every move and feeling like nothing you do is good enough. Learning to quiet self doubt and stop worrying about what you think others think about you, is another key piece to finding happiness within yourself.
Let me help you overcome your lack of confidence in your ability as a parent so you can stop second guessing your every move, and finally feel certain you can handle anything that comes your way.
Focus on Self
What inspires you? Maybe you don't even know. It's understandable. Many women get so consumed by their day to day schedules that they lose sight of the person they used to be. I bet you can tell me what your child's favorite pizza topping is, but can you pinpoint yours?
Let me help you explore who you truly are after all these years of putting all your focus on being a mom so you can rediscover your likes, dreams, and desires and find your place in the world.
“Self-care is giving the world the best of you instead of what's left of you.” ~Katie Reed
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