For years I tried to be super mom. I did all the things I believed my kids needed or wanted. I place all my focus on them. Basically everything I did, thought, or worked for was for them.
I let everything else slip away.
My kids became who I was, my whole identity. I was their mom.
Fast forward a fifteen years, to find that I am married to a stranger with whom I share no interests, have kids who take me for granted and don't respect me, and have no idea who I am anymore or what I want out of life.
Worst of all, I was always just one moment away from irritation or anger. I was unhappy and hopelessly lonely.
I couldn't understand why this was my life. I did everything for them! I gave everything I had and more to my family. I compromised my happiness and my sanity so I could be the best mom for them.
But you know what?
Turns out I compromised too much.
I compromised myself. I didn't set clear boundaries. I didn't set clear expectations. Instead, I let my kids run the show and I just ran around doing whatever I thought they needed me to do. Never stopping for a minute to think that there was a better way to do this.
I let being a mom deplete all my energy without ever taking a minute to restore it.
I allowed myself to become resentful and bitter. This was not the mom I set out to be. I wanted to be everything for my kids, but I compromised too much of myself in the process.
Hind sight is 20/20.
While we can never go back, we can't change the past, we can learn from it. We can take that knowledge and use it to improve our future.
I don't want you to make the same mistakes I did. I want to help you be the mom I was trying to be without the compromising.
I firmly believe there are four distinctive struggles that moms face. I call them monsters.
Overcoming the Monster is the basis for my whole purpose. It's that monster within yourself.
I believe she has many forms.
- Hollow Monster who make you feel empty and depleted.
- Invisible Monster who leaves you wondering who you are and how you lost yourself.
- Stress Monster who makes you believe you must to all the things because that's what's expected of you.
- Stigma Monster who makes you doubt yourself and causes you to feel like you're being judged, when in fact you are judging yourself.
My goal is to help you and other moms realize their personal monster or struggle then guide you through the process of defeating it. You can't change what you can't identify, after all.
Once the struggle has a name, we can work together through proven systems designed to help conquer the struggle and keep it away for good.